Out of My Own Box

After taking way too many days crafting a “speaker-introduction letter” to pimp myself out for speaking gigs, I’ve spent the afternoon sending out these letters to various churches and MOPS groups and the like.

This does NOT come naturally to me. There is, after all, a reason why I’m a writer and not, say, a concert promoter or even a sales person. Selling is not my strong suit, and selling myself fits me even worse (does this analogy line up?).

But since this self-promotion is part of the writing life (at least if you want to succeed at all), I forced myself out of my shy box and into this “here I am!” realm. Everything’s been going fine—I’d gotten into a decent groove—and then I got an email that made me want to crawl back in my little safe box.

The PASTOR of one of the churches I had contacted emailed me back saying never to “solicit” her church again. This sort of thing seriously makes me want to cry. I’m not good at being scolded, and her email sent me into moments of trying to figure out how I might have offended, what I did wrong (I’m only doing what my own MOPS director told me to do….), and how I could make it right.

So now, as I fear checking my in-box for more angry emails from church secretaries, women’s ministry leaders, and pastors alike, and as I second-guess my decision to pimp myself in the first place, I wonder, what moments in your life have you put yourself out there, uneasily, and faced resistance. What did you do?

Oh, and if you’re looking for an obviously unsure and self-depricating speaker (who’s still somehow quite at-ease in front of large groups of strangers), I’m your girl!

Happy Memorial Day!

4 Responses to “Out of My Own Box”

  1. May 23, 2008 at 5:34 pm #

    I just got your fantastic speaker intro letter, and was happy to get it! Then I saw your website and your recent blog entry. I’m sorry that someone was rude to you– you didn’t do anything wrong at all. (I’d be cowering in a corner if that happened to me!)

    That said, do you have a specific fee to speak at a MOPS group? And if so, will you email me the specifics at info@cfmops.com?

    Thank you!

    Julie Jones
    West Chicago MOPS

  2. May 24, 2008 at 1:04 am #

    Dear Caryn,

    I stumbled upon this blog while doing research. I just want you to know that you are not wrong. Some people are like that. They do not care for others the way “we” do and even as noble as our actions may be at the time. There is always someone out there who just throws a monkey wrench in the middle the entire scenareo.

    But don’t worry! The majority of the people are not like tha one person.. and you will come across them from time to time!

    With Hugs and blessings

    Les Sans-Abri Project

  3. June 24, 2008 at 8:57 pm #

    Aww. I would feel bad and want to crawl under a rock if I received an email like that. Gladly, there are more kind people out there, and you will probably receive nicer responses from now on. I have sent out mailings for my ministry, Heartwarming Publications http://www.heartwarmingpublications.com, and usually pray over them before I mail them (just to be safe). It may sound crazy, but it works. I ask for God’s favor upon them, too. Thank you for sharing your story. :)

    Be blessed,
    Heartwarming Publications

  4. a.k.
    September 13, 2008 at 2:29 pm #

    Just so you know: it’s spelled “deprecating.”

    Remember that all kinds of godly men & women were rejected in Scripture! Persevere…

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